Lolita's Fist

I had a friend ask me how to handle people justifying their poor treatment of non-binary people with biology - penis, vagina, procreation, chromosomes. I answered: It is important to address all the straw men that they throw out when they argue these points. They set up things for you to battle - gender, procreation, biology - and thereby define the terms of the argument. And those terms are (shrug) all good, for them. If they want to procreate, honor their penises and vaginas, and be addressed as Mr and Mrs, I would fight in the streets for their right to conduct their lives in any way they choose fit.  Point 1. However, just because they are offended by the way other people conduct their lives does not mean they are right. In fact, Mr and Mrs have no right to lean over any fence and dictate to anyone how that person chooses to be addressed or how that person chooses to think about biology.  Point 2. Under the guise of community or religion their attitude is unkind, ungenerou...

I had a thought about how people pick up their phone as soon as I start talking, or interrupt with endless unrelated topics three times in my sentence. I wondered when I have that urge to pick up my phone. I have it when I know the other person is going to interrupt me with their interminable interruptions. Social media is interruptible because it's repetitive, brief, and the algorithm will serve it up again. I can always scroll back or double tap to regain those seconds. The minute or two that I have between the other person's interruptions are entertaining and sharable. Their interruptions are just part of the endless scroll. We're just tossing out personal anecdotes and we're the algorithm. I suppose that is the good thing. I'd rather have the algorithm be us than the coderboys. A silver lining. I can even double tap them if I say, "I missed that last bit, what was that?"

Colonising your neighbours. Your interest in controlling how I live, bringing your culture to where I am, and declaring this is how I should live. Bear in mind that in the olden days (and in America in the newden days), bigotry infested public institutions. The people who didn't like the bigotry and wanted to, for example marry homos, had to leave government or suck it up.  Then public institutions were lobbied for decades by people representing race, color, religion, sex, age, national origin, veteran status, sexual orientation, gender identity, disability, or other bases of discrimination. The government... or institution... considered the arguments, consulted, read the studies, made committees and wrote constitutions and bills based on creating an equitable environment for all to thrive and manifested it in the community (aka government mandate).  Now people in the instution who don't want to enact government not-bigotries and want to be able to not enact the rules, for exa...

I love Juliette Binoche's bush. Oh my gosh, it's luxurious and fuckyouey in a world where Barbie has no nipples and no pussy and Barbie's name is used as a labiaplasty 'STYLE'. I love the 'Juliette', I wish for the 'Juliette'. The 'Juliette' reeks of abundance and agency, and it smells good. Thanks Juliette. #YouRock

The fact that you, a poet or standup, asks whether you can speak in another's voice already earns you the right to speak. That you had before anyway. I don't believe in any kind of censorship. And for poets, writers, and standups, that no-censorship rule goes double in my books. These are word crafters. They put more effort into putting a piece together than Facebookers, or tweeters, and they can't just delete their words out of the sound channel of our lives. They take the rap when they say something others don't like.  As a woman, a radical feminist, incensed by the media, movies, and gaming, I would rather hear it.... AND NOT HAVE MY RESPONSE CENSORED. I have my own voice. Someone of my gender has their own voice, a homeless person has their own voice. Instead of shouting at you, I would listen to your poem, and the next time I see a homeless person, listen to them, and encourage them, facilitate their voice, AND I HAVE DONE THIS.  My approach is always ...

Shadowbanned ~ Where They ban you for a day and don't let you know with a message, They let you go on oblivious to the fact that only if a person specifically searches for your handle can they then see what you said. Shadowbanning is locking you out of everyones' Feed. Also, if you Feed from competition sites that haven't made a deal with your social media site, They also shadowban that stuff.  Put up your hand if you see this post, I'm sure They don't want us mutually educating about shadowbanning either.  Welcome to the the land of #NetNeutrality trash. Shadowbanning can break the back of the power of the hashtag. These are the tweets that posted to my Facebook that got me banned:   Like   View Tweet activity Tanya Pretorius ‏   @fetsiboomsticks   17 Dec 2017 More #MenAreTrash have not intervened if a #MenAreTrash was denigrating a woman, beating a woman, raping a woman. 0 replies 0 retweets 0 lik...