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#8thAmendment ~ Ireland. First choice is free contraception-on-demand, no age restrictions, no parental-inform laws, multiple access points that operate 24 hours, the morning after pill, and Copper-T information despite its lack of popularity with the capitalist exploitative-of-womens-bank-account patriarchy... many of these were provided by Planned Parenthood... and then, second choice, is abortion. Without the first choice, the second choice is essential. When Catholics and Christians fight FOR the first choice - contraception - then they won't have to fight AGAINST the second choice - abortion. Think about that.

One of those Bechdel-passers that drives women mad. It passes because two named woman characters speak to each other about something other than a man - it's one word, but it counts. "Mama."

"I had to rape her, she was wearing a miniskirt." "I had to be trashy, she called me trash." Just another blame shift from perpetrator to victim. Modus operandi. When we call them 'partner' they often don't behave like 'partner'. What do you suggest women do? Call them 'king'? How do we address the trashiness of men's behaviour? The #NotAllMen surely know this doesn't apply to them. Does the 'good man' in you say 'fuck it' when you know it doesn't apply to you? Is goodness not your pride to have? I don't feel slutty when men call women sluts and hoes and bitches. I go on being the person I am. Do you think men don't?

Irritated that Sally smiles after telling Glenn that Rolo tried to force her. Rolo did try to force her. Coercion is force, definitely not consent. "You made us drive out here, you have to give me something in return." But the smile implies that she got him into trouble when he didn't deserve it. Fuck that.

Being rude is never right. And white women do have a slight advantage. I have been told by men that when they get angry things escalate much quicker. Another man will step in and violence erupts, so they hold themselves back. White women can get angry because it's unlikely someone will hit them, in public. So they are likely to right wrongs. They have the power to sit next to a person of color being harassed, or stand with a child being bullied, or rustle up the interest of a lazy rude fuck that's interrupting her busy two-job + housework + blow-job day. In private women get hit, so their silence is kept for their homes.

Teenage movies back in the day were about how we felt different to our peers, we were each unusual and didn't fit. The movies were about how we tried.   The films were highly inappropriate, but we were so normalized to inappropriate that we didn't notice. Rapey, racist, sexist, were normal.   Grease (1978) was chock-a-block full of sex talk - I didn't notice - children ignore what they don't understand and fit what they do into a world that normalized what they did understand.  Girls tossed aside if they didn't put out and accepted if they look like sluts was normal. Normal. But to grown men our ignorance of what we were looking at looks like consent, acquiescence, flirting. "Young girls come on to me." Olivia's pants were fashion. Slut pants were fashion. Even now I am deeply uncomfortable with using the term 'slut'. And does my discomfort systemically play right into the patriarchal agendas depic...

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Of the top 250 films of 2017, 88 percent had no female directors, 83 percent had no female writers, and 96 percent had no female cinematographers. Source: https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2018/01/the-brutal-math-of-gender-inequality-in-hollywood/550232/

WATCH 4mins Frozen is not feministy, and problems don't get solved with a hug or a kiss.

Shadowbanned ~ Where They ban you for a day and don't let you know with a message, They let you go on oblivious to the fact that only if a person specifically searches for your handle can they then see what you said. Shadowbanning is locking you out of everyones' Feed. Also, if you Feed from competition sites that haven't made a deal with your social media site, They also shadowban that stuff.  Put up your hand if you see this post, I'm sure They don't want us mutually educating about shadowbanning either.  Welcome to the the land of #NetNeutrality trash. Shadowbanning can break the back of the power of the hashtag. These are the tweets that posted to my Facebook that got me banned:   Like   View Tweet activity Tanya Pretorius ‏   @fetsiboomsticks   17 Dec 2017 More #MenAreTrash have not intervened if a #MenAreTrash was denigrating a woman, beating a woman, raping a woman. 0 replies 0 retweets 0 lik...

If you talk about condoms, talk about stealthing - where men surreptitiously allow the condom to slip off (wear one that's too big) or remove it with their hands. Women must look at the packaging, help put it on, and slip their hands down there regularly to check if it is still on. Source of picture Sergey Markov

I've had enough of Homeland. The lead woman is portrayed as a madwoman in the attic, a sadwoman on the heath, a badwoman on the bed. And the men all around are calm and focused and collected. Her behaviour would never be tolerated in real life. Never. She would be relegated to some desk job. She's a loose cannon who can't follow orders, popping Lithium. At least John McClane and Dirty Harry weren't popping Lithium.  I wonder what Hollywood could be wanting to imply about the emotionality of women in the workplace? Does anyone want to give me insight into what happened with her pregnancy - did they let her have the baby or did she dutifully abort it, or it self-aborted, or she carried it to term and became a housewife in the woods?

After the #NotAllMen have finished sulking, do they ever focus on the men who are trash? No. #NotAllMen is a diversionary tactic and irrelevant. EXAMPLE Women are paid 70c on the dollar across the whole world and in some countries even less. #NotAllWomen said the CEO of Facebook. Did anything about the first statement change? I think men think that the hashtag should be - #AFewMenAreTrash. Snort #AFewMenArentTrash. And that would SIMPLY BE WRONG. You aren't women so you don't know. You have a completely different experience of men. My father has NO COOKING CLUE that my uncles and his friends have been up to stuff. Not to mention men he's known tangentially. Not to mention all the men not associated with my father. So my father thinks men are fine. Until women can come forward and BE BELIEVED men will think they know. They don't know. I told my father the other day that I was raped. He was shocked. I am fifty. I am articulate, my uncles are dead. ...

And you will see an obsession with justifying the sexualization of children. Pedophiles fight for the law to change so that they can fuck children because they believe that young girls intentionally seduce them. Teach your girls well how to NOT give them that impression.  Mommy taught me all the swear words, and she let me scream at men like a banshee, throw a tantrum. She (sort-of) let me wear clothes with holes in and jeans with grotesque tallies and t-shirts. That's how I responded to the barrage of men trying to fuck me. I cry for children who are encouraged to "be nice". Pedophiles think that "be nice" = "seduced". Were you harassed by pedophiles, Barbara? How did you respond?

#WomanPhillic movies would have the woman coming home late and the man waiting asleep in their bed.

#DanSays ~ If a man needs a kayak and a burlap sack to get off it would be in the room from the first time you have sex. Women never ask for what they want or bring what they want. Greta Gerwig just asked Billy Crudup for fantasy role play. He asked if he could rather just be himself. (Thankfully Gerwig said No). That was one hell of an important moment in film right there.  Owning your sexuality, being naughty, "I figured out how to be looked at by men, how to make men feel excited and uncomfortable." #ParaphrasingGenius Greta Gerwig

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If we keep punishing the sexual assaulters - now not for their power-mongering pussy-grabbing dick-exhibiting rape-adjacent behaviour --- but for their apologies --- (and yes, apologies are not hollow if they are backed by a change of behaviour, a true understanding, a demonstration of amends) - then I think that's problematic. I was raised to unconditionally accept a concrete apology. That it's ungracious to not accept an apology. And as a feminist I think it is strategically problematic to keep beating a person with their hands up. I would feel like the cops leaning over Rodney King. Of course, the minute Louis CK whips his dick out again, he's dead to me. I am not the girl to hang around for the second apology. Not #MeToo

Night Must Fall (1964) Because clones, drones, and automobiles are missing. Everyone I know refuses to watch movies made before 2000. I've collected movies way back to the 40s. And I love them. You definitely can't watch them with a cell phone in front of your face. Don't get me wrong, I love new movies too. Many. I'm not too fond of the repetitive scores of many new movies. Do they pay musicians by the note! And the endless fight and chase scenes, they're all the same, just in one movie the guy hits up, in another movie he hits down. Snore. I do look down at my cellphone during these sorts of time-wasters. CGI makes up for it. If you look down at your cellphone while watching Albert Finney arrive at the mansion in Night Must Fall (1964) you'll miss the little over-excited jig he does at the gardner and all the increasing tell-tale signs of his intentions. And when would you see a post-2000 film where a young man so ominously wraps an old woman around...

🍒 Extraordinary film about the ordinariness of war. Structured like a disaster movie with no cliffhangers, it undermines your every expectation of when to put your fingers in your ears. Disaster movies also show you a bit of relationship leg here and a bit of relationship leg there, in this case the camaraderie of men servicing a war. A Perfect Day takes you round the side of the horror, round the side of the explosives, round the side of the mass graves. It focuses on 'the other stuff' of war. Geniusly done. And, despite there being two women in the convoy, overnighting in the wilderness, the movie makers couldn't rustle up a scene where two named women talk to each other about something other than a man. Bechdel-fail. IMDB A Perfect Day (2015) Actors: Benicio Del Toro, Tim Robbins Director: Fernando León de Aranoa